Voices In Your Head

 

Do you hear voices in your head? Are they always positive and encouraging? If your answer to that is yes, are you being honest? Most of us tend to have trash talk in our heads.

If you have been around the MMM for a long you know I often incorporate musical lyric references. Have you heard the Jelly Roll song entitled “Liar”? Consider these random snippets from the song.

·        I let you drive around my mind

·        You made me feel like I’m nothing

·        Saying…

-          Heaven isn’t real

-          You won’t find nobody to love

·        You try to be my friend, but your blowing smoke

·        You ain’t nothing but a liar

We all have demons and head trash. That is enough to deal with, but the song lyrics seem to be about another person’s whose thoughts and opinions running around his head. Don’t let others get all up into your headspace. Protect your mind from the negative thoughts of others.

We may not be able to train the voices in our minds to always be positive, but we can keep the negative voice of others from camping out in our heads.

Think about it and listen to Jelly Roll.

I was recently reminded about the lost art of courtesy…

 

 

courteous

adj Characterized by gracious consideration toward others. 1: exhibiting courtesy

and politeness; "a nice gesture" [syn: gracious, nice] 2: characterized by courtesy

and gracious good manners.

 

When was the last time you thought about this word?  More importantly when was the last time you thought about actually being courteous?  Not just with the barista or wait staff, but what about in your daily work and home life?  Being courteous is a really simple behavior that can positively impact relationships in the business world.  It is perhaps even more important at home.  For some reason we can easily forget to be kind and courteous to those we love. Courtesy is free to grant and not time consuming.  Why aren’t we courteous all the time? 

Never Stop Learning

 

Do you think people really mean it when they say we learn something new every day?  They should.  Too often we treat the learning process as something with a specific end to it.  We tend to say we "went to school" or "received our education".  That sounds like we are done learning!  Often in fact we hardly begin learning about life until we are finished with our formal education.  Perhaps we need to think of our education as an ongoing process not something that we have completed in the past.  We really can learn something new every day, and, we should.  Think about what you will learn today!

Volume

 

Does it help for anger and frustration to be expressed through increased volume? Do strong leaders become loud to convey important facts? Is yelling truly a better way to communicate urgency? I suggest the answer to all of these questions is no.

 

Yet, despite knowing this, I do not always live that way. It is a very human reaction to “get loud” in certain circumstances. Other than large crowds or great distances, and of course sporting events, what good is loud screaming? The person you are communicating with was probably hearing you just fine before you got emotional and turned up the volume.

 

Sure, voice inflection and some degree of volume change can be used in communicating a message, but outright yelling? Not at all. Communication with excess volume can foster anger and disrespect. It can undermine good leadership. It is demeaning and degrading to the listener. Next time you feel the urge to get loud, pause and ask yourself if it really necessary?