HABITS

Ever wonder why you fall into habits you don’t want to, and can’t change the ones you do want to? 

“Your brain is lazy.  It doesn’t know the difference between a good habit and a bad habit.  It just takes everything you repeatedly think, say or do, and turns it into a habit so it doesn’t have to work so hard.” -       Anne Grady

Wow!  Think about that!  “everything you repeatedly think, say or do…”  Really?  I don’t know about you, but I spend a lot of time thinking, saying and doing things that I do not need turned into habits.  Then what does it take to change the habit?  I can only assume, repeatedly thinking, saying and doing, something different or the opposite.

The human brain is incredibly powerful, part of that power is making things easy on itself when performing routine and repetitive tasks.  It is also powerful enough to overcome the habits, but we have to train it to do so.  It takes work and intentional decision making. 

What are you repeatedly thinking, saying or doing?  Are those things that you want to see become habits next month?

Grow Up!

People say that it is possible to actually grow up.  I am not sure I ever met anyone who has really done it.  What does it really mean to grow up anyway?  Does it mean to...

·         Stop acting like a kid?

·         Become responsible?

·         Stop having fun?  …or have a different kind of fun?

·         Take on Debt?  …or be out of debt?

·         Act mature? (What is mature?)

·         Get a real job?  (What is a real job?)

Growing up is subjective.  It means different things to different people.  I believe that growing up is the sequence of life's events that make us who we are.  The nature of those events may cause some feel to feel grown up and others not.  Those events may cause some people to never feel, or act, really grow up.  For that matter, maybe none of us ever actually grow up.  That may not be all bad.  Life is a journey and not a destination.  If we were to all be grown up what would we have to look forward to?

Problems

We all have problems!  They come in all shapes and sizes, some more challenging and frustrating than others.  We have problems at work and problems at home.  They might even be threatening our livelihood, health or relationships!  How we deal with problems goes a long way to determining who we are and how we find happiness.  The first question we need to always ask ourselves is “Are we part of the problem”.  Especially in relationship challenges a hard introspective look can really be valuable.  Maybe a solution is right there in front of our eyes.  Stop being part of the problem!  Sometimes the easiest way to solve a problem is to stop participating in it.  Give it some thought in regards to the problems you are dealing with.  Be part of the solution, not part of the problem!

Revenge

Revenge can be a very misguided motivator in the business world.  Healthy business competition is a good thing.  This country was built on it.  Revenge, however, is an unhealthy motive in business, as well as in our personal lives.  Revenge distorts ones’ vision and leads to a lack of focus.  It can lead to actions and decisions that are inconsistent with our business goals and/or our personal values.  All business initiatives and decisions should be checked to confirm their support of the corporate mission.  If they are found to be simply for the sake of revenge they should be avoided lest they weaken the meaning of the mission.  Don’t let revenge drive your business decisions.

An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.

- Mohandas Gandhi