It is easy to initially overreact, bite back, or even yell in certain circumstances. I have done it. We all have. I suggest a little different approach. Resist the urge to vent and overreact. First consider what will be gained from your reaction. Is there anything positive to come from it? Will something be improved? Anything gained? Will the outcome or the next step change or become easier. You feeling better is not a good enough answer. We all need to vent. But biting someone’s head off is not a good form of venting. We should vent with close friends, confidants or mentors.
Overreacting seldom has a positive benefit. So why do it? Save the energy. Preserve the relationship. Consider a more measured and appropriate response at a more appropriate time.